The Art of Flow

to flow.jpgTo flow is to move along in a steady and continuous stream… gliding, unhampered, as if you are water itself.

I always love when the universe is trying to give me a clear message. There were two posts the other day that jumped out at me and caught my attention. They both spoke about the ability to keep moving on, that it wasn’t enough just to make a move, but that you had to keep the motion flowing.

That is the key. You have to keep moving, flowing. And keep flowing forward at that. I have discovered that the art of that flow is to anchor yourself each day with things that help you stay grounded and feeling productive and good about yourself. I call these my “three little somethings.” I have found that if I can do three little somethings each day, that my energy, outlook, and overall health improve. The first something is something for myself – like conscious breathing, meditation, exercise, yoga, a walk on the beach, or a lovely bath just to name a few ideas; second, something productive – maybe it’s for work, maybe it is for the household… it could be a task, a chore, catching up on correspondence or filing, maybe it is cleaning off my desk! Maybe it is as simple as driving one of my children somewhere, or in my case the other night, preparing a family dinner for nine. The third something is something creative – journal, paint, dance, write, sing… for me it is usually writing, but maybe it is creating posters for my facebook page, maybe it is playing guitar or piano.   Doing something for my creative heart and soul lifts my spirit and at the same time renews my energy.

Accomplishing my “three little somethings” each day helps me to stay grounded, happy, and feeling good about myself. And by the way, if for some reason I don’t get to all three, I forgive myself, knowing that I did the best I could, and that tomorrow is a new day. I keep flowing forward, drifting, swimming, gliding… whatever it takes to just stay in the art of flow.

Jill Alman-Bernstein

I Must Be A Mermaid is the blending of my own personal soul searching with the inspirations and insights that I first found in the community of like-minded writers, healers, and teachers on Facebook. I dove in, created my page, and found the courage to swim through whatever was in my path, giving voice to my feelings through my personal observations and writing, as well as of those that spoke to me. With my I Must Be A Mermaid blog, I will fearlessly dive deeper into the realms of my heart and soul, swimming through their waters as a mermaid immersed in the sea of life.

By | 2014-06-28T16:59:45+00:00 June 28th, 2014|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|1 Comment

88 Times Is The Charm!

It is a grey day. I did not sleep very well last night and so I am tired. But it is a “writing” day and so I must get in the frame of mind to work on a blog post or perhaps on a chapter of my “long form” writing project.  I am really trying to just get into my flow and to do that I do a bit of a yoga stretch, and some breathing to help ease me into that centered, calm place.  I think to myself how nice it would be to have a little music to inspire me through these exercises.

I am now at my computer writing.  Secluded in my office and with headphones on my ears, I am cocooned and look through my itunes for music to listen to that will set the tone for my work. Thinking about the yoga stretch, breathe, flow exercise, I am looking at what songs I want to use to create that playlist I had thought about earlier. Maybe I will put 4 or 5 songs on it total.  I am looking through the recently played songs and somehow my attention is on a list that tells me how many times each song has been played…  I see one has been played 88 times. Well, knowing my affinity to the number 8, I had to see what in fact had that most amount of plays.  It was Shawn Colvin’s “Get out of this house.”  88 times… I thought to myself, “there must be some message here,”  “maybe this is my anthem!”

For those of us of a particular generation, the unmistakable first bars for the theme of the movie Rocky evokes in us the memory of what that character had to do, the drive he had, what he had to overcome to become the champion that he knew he was inside.

We all need anthems to become champions of ourselves.  Music is a great motivational force.  We are drawn to different types of music, different songs, melodies, poetry…  We look to music to score and accompany our moods – Joyful music when we are happy and melancholy melodies when we are not.  Certain lyrics might exactly express how we are feeling at a given moment or period of our life.  You might be drawn to a particular song for so many reasons.  Perhaps there is a hidden message and you keep listening to the song until you get it. We look for music that we can identify with, that will spur us on…be there to inspire us, soothe us, provide the emotional net for us to fall into or to leap from.

I know we all have had songs that bring up a memory, that whenever we hear that particular song we remember something deeply and on a soul level.  Cassette tapes, CD’s, and now playlists are all reflective of and are a musical snapshot of our lives, almost marking periods and distinguishing eras.  I go back to some of the playlists and quite frankly, cannot listen to them anymore.  I see that I have come so far.  And then there are the CD’s that I listened to when I was pregnant with my children… the ones I later listened to with them in my arms and bopped around the house, the music that I used when I danced, the songs that I listened to just to help me through.  All stir something inside me.

So what is the message Shawn Colvin has been trying to give to me or is it an anthem to all that I am feeling?  The simplistic answer is that it is telling me that all those sad feelings and negative thoughts that I have been dwelling in, all the things I have been trying to let go of, that I should let go of, I need to get them out of  “my house,” my head, my consciousness.  And clearly it took hearing the words and its driving melody 88 times to finally recognize the message! And so it is my anthem now.  Anything that causes me stress or anger or despair, I put on the song and let it help remind me to just direct it all out of this house of mine.  Perhaps the song itself stands as a metaphor for something bigger than this moment; maybe it speaks to a philosophy for the journey itself.  But for now I will take the simple route, for sometimes less is really more, and simple is the best answer.  Oh and by the way, in case you didn’t know, the theme for Rocky is titled “Gonna Fly Now.”


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Links for songs!

Shawn Colvin – Get Out Of This House – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k22e6EAPv34&feature=kp

Theme from Rocky – Gonna Fly Now – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ioE_O7Lm0I4

 

 

 

Jill Alman-Bernstein

I Must Be A Mermaid is the blending of my own personal soul searching with the inspirations and insights that I first found in the community of like-minded writers, healers, and teachers on Facebook. I dove in, created my page, and found the courage to swim through whatever was in my path, giving voice to my feelings through my personal observations and writing, as well as of those that spoke to me. With my I Must Be A Mermaid blog, I will fearlessly dive deeper into the realms of my heart and soul, swimming through their waters as a mermaid immersed in the sea of life.

By | 2014-04-18T18:01:49+00:00 April 18th, 2014|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|4 Comments

The Ritual of Living

You have to sit in the place you are in before you can go to the place you want to be…

I was inspired to go to a yoga class the other day.  It was a salutations class – a salutation to the moon ritual.  What was wonderful about it was that it turned out to be a small group of women and each of us seemed to be deeply rooted and focused in the art of the salutation, and the search for peace, tranquility, and a deeper connection to our selves.  There was a lightness of spirit in the space – mainly because the teacher, a beautiful soul, led us through the ritual in such a gentle and intuitive way.

And so I am reflecting now on the class and see that the ritual is really not at all about the salutations as salutations to the moon, but about finding that place and space within us, creating that openness and humility in our selves, and honoring our own souls as if we were ourselves the moon. (more…)

Jill Alman-Bernstein

I Must Be A Mermaid is the blending of my own personal soul searching with the inspirations and insights that I first found in the community of like-minded writers, healers, and teachers on Facebook. I dove in, created my page, and found the courage to swim through whatever was in my path, giving voice to my feelings through my personal observations and writing, as well as of those that spoke to me. With my I Must Be A Mermaid blog, I will fearlessly dive deeper into the realms of my heart and soul, swimming through their waters as a mermaid immersed in the sea of life.

By | 2013-08-17T03:24:11+00:00 July 18th, 2013|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|2 Comments