Sometimes you just have to say, “It is what it is.”

“Take things as they come.” “Be present.” “Live the moment.”

All great drops of advice and all important to having peace in your heart. So why is it that we have such a difficult time doing them? Many of us analyze, over analyze, think, and over think why certain events and relationships happen in our lives. We are stuck on not only the fact that they happened, but on the why. After all, everything happens for a reason. But is it so important to know that reason Can’t we just accept that it happened and look for what it has shown us, taught us, and how it has helped us grow?

If there was ever a statement that strongly resonated with me it would be Caroline Myss’ words: “Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.” I spent years trying to find the reason why something happened, why I made the choice I did, why things had worked out as they had. It was so painful and I suffered greatly. Living in the past or holding on to a fantasy is such a waste of energy. And it causes great hardship. Trying to decipher all the meanings in our personal universe is exhausting and we may not find all the answers we seek, or want for that matter. The search could be enlightening, but most often we feel anguish, sadness, and heartbreak when we remain in that search for the reasons why.

We all make mistakes. We all experience some emotional trauma. We all suffer. But we have the power, the choice, to free ourselves from that pain. I have often joked with friends about how it is time to get off misery road, that it is within our power to change the trajectory of our lives. We must choose to be vigilant and redirect our thoughts away from the questions of why something happened, why a relationship soured, why a person is the way they are, why a job didn’t work out, why we had to lose a loved one… why our life is the way it is. The best thing we can do for ourselves is give up the need to know why things happen as they do and just accept that they did, that they are as they are now. Just accept and allow the lesson. I dislike the expression, “It is what it is,” but it is the truth, and I find myself thinking or saying those words a lot lately.

So turn off of misery road and turn on to the road of joy, of happiness, of contentment, and of peace. Turn off your wondering mind. Cease the inquiry. Give up the need to know the why and concentrate on what is – focus on the present moment, and then focus on each subsequent moment as you experience life.

“Take things as they come.” “Be present.” “Live the moment.”

Peace of mind and soul can be yours. It is your choice.

By |2018-10-11T08:35:41+00:00March 4th, 2016|More Emotional Weather|2 Comments

When Things Come Up

We go through life almost on automatic. Our body manages to sustain itself – all our systems operate healthily we hope, and we awake and glide through our days to wind down and lay our heads to rest at night.

Our human experiences begin from the moment we are conceived. In the womb we have a consciousness.  Though we may not have any sense of that time, each moment is indelibly imprinted.  We are born and live our lives, each of us our own adventure, each of us our own individual story to tell.  We form our ideas and thoughts. We discover what we want, what we dream and desire. We strive for the things that we think are important, that will make us happy, successful, and loved.

But for most of us, there is a glitch, an imperfection, a bump in our road, an obstacle that throws us off course, or prevents us from achieving something that we aspire towards. There are things that don’t sit well with us, that cause us stress, or pain. And there are things that though we try to avoid them, they keep coming up. (more…)

By |2018-10-16T10:43:59+00:00February 18th, 2014|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|3 Comments

Shifting to Our Higher Self

I read somewhere that each incarnation is just a different aspect of our self, perhaps another version, or even a better vestige of who we are meant to be.  It is an interesting perspective with regard to past lives.  That with each lifetime, we become more invested in our soul and its journey, exploring unknowingly each contract and path, with an open heart and eye, and with the knowledge that all of our aspects will in the end come together, and we will evolve into one enlightened being, that we will fold or merge in to our higher self.

I have this image of multiple me’s.   Like when you stand between two mirrors – a mirror in front of you and behind you – you can see a hundred images of yourself, each fragmented in your limited perception, as you cannot fully see every one of you.  I began to think of the soul as an accordion.  Each fold another experience, another aspect, age.  (more…)

By |2018-10-10T09:02:21+00:00January 8th, 2014|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|1 Comment

Seeing Your Life As It Is

We all see our world the way we want it to be.  We color our days with the words and images that reinforce our idea of what we think our life should be like.  But what we really need to do is see our world as it is.  This means really being in the present moment, really understanding what each moment offers.  This is what being present is about -opening your eyes – opening your heart – opening every cell in your body to whatever the experience you are living may be. (more…)

By |2018-10-16T10:36:45+00:00December 28th, 2013|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|3 Comments

Just Let It Rain

Some days there is just more of a struggle. I try on those days to just let those thoughts that are drifting in and causing an emotional disturbance to just drift on through. I love the term ‘emotional disturbance’ as it really describes what is happening at those precise moments that we experience suffering on our heart and soul levels. Suffering is an umbrella for the multitude of feelings that come up when those ‘disturbances’ set in and inform us of situations or events that do not meet with our expectations, or our liking. Life has a habit of presenting things that just don’t always sit right with us.  And so when that happens, our reaction stirs our emotions, and the storm begins.  (more…)

By |2018-10-11T08:16:21+00:00December 13th, 2013|More Emotional Weather|2 Comments

The Path of Intentions

We all have an idea of what our life should look like – what we should look like, who we should be with, what kind of job we should have, how much money we should have, what kind of house we should live in…. These are the tapes that we have been playing on both a conscious and subconscious level throughout our lives.  But the key word in all that I just said is “should” – and by placing those limits, goals, and beliefs in that context, we are doomed to judge and probably fail ourselves.  So how do we move past those prescriptives that we have set?  How do we find that equilibrium between what our mind constructs and what actually is? (more…)

By |2018-10-10T11:09:04+00:00December 8th, 2013|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|3 Comments

What Becomes of the Broken-hearted?

Every day my heart breaks just a little. Usually it is from an expectation and then a profound disappointment – be it a friend, a family member, perhaps one of my children, or even my life itself, I experience that deep hurt and shock that starts in my gut and permeates my soul daily.

I was thinking back on being heartbroken, and how I have probably experienced the pathology of a broken heart from a very young age, yet did not know how to identify it as that. Did it start with my parents having my siblings? Was my heart that was solely my mother’s and father’s, and their hearts mine, first fractured at the tender age of three?  Did it begin when my paternal grandparents demonstrated a lack of caring and love when they showed favoritism to my cousins and aunt and uncle, placing conditions on their affection and behaving emotionally abusive in the process? Or was it life’s other disappointments? (more…)

By |2018-10-16T10:30:11+00:00October 8th, 2013|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|6 Comments

There is a Process for Everything

There are just some days when everything feels like it is falling apart.  The emotional chaos seems too much to bare, and the reveal of how deeply painful it all is plunges you down into the darkest cave.  You try to see light and hold on to all the inspiration you have memorized and planted.  The “everything happens for a reason,” “there is a lesson in everything,” and “trust the universe,” all feel so shallow, your faith and belief are clouded. What are you clinging to that is holding you in this vibration and preventing your joyous energy to flow?  What if the one thing that you are holding on to so intensely is, when let go, the very piece that will balance everything else into place, and the flow of ease will be restored?

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By |2018-10-11T11:21:09+00:00September 20th, 2013|More Emotional Weather|0 Comments