Everything Happens for a Reason, or Does it?

Do things happen for a reason, or is it all just random? And so the question of whether or not there is a prescribed path for each of us to follow, a designated sequence of events, is pondered. Is there a grand plan? A friend recently suggested that if indeed there was a grand plan for everyone, then why was I worried or stressed or sad? I should just trust the plan and more importantly, I should try not to analyze “why” things happened. Are there truly lessons to be learned that we contract to experience, lessons that guide us through our own personal mine fields where we bloom or implode, and outcomes are written in our destiny? It is said that our soul’s journey is comprised of prescribed lessons that we agreed to learn before we came into this life, lessons that we will learn no matter what path and relationships we choose. I read that what you are doing does not matter so much as what you are learning from doing it. Maybe then the lesson is not in the “why” it happened, but in the fact that it happened at all. Life is after all about moments. And each moment and event is filled with the opportunity to learn something about our selves. Each moment or event opens the door to other opportunities and paths for us to explore. But are we guided to these certain experiences by some inner aspect of our selves? How often have we known that a decision is correct, or that a choice resonates truth? Would that be a confirmation from our higher self or divine guidance from within? We simply have to follow the path. One friend described her path as “following the bouncing ball.” She had experienced something extraordinary and now was attuned to the sound of that bounce – the one that reverberates and says, “come” and adds “do not fear for all will be ok.” When I think of my path, I think of following a thread – or a ribbon that is at my place at the table and winds its way through and intersects with other ribbons, embodying all that it feels, sees, senses, and hears, becoming educated in who it is so that when it reaches the big centerpiece box filled with surprises and joy in the center, it lands in gratitude. I like that metaphor – each day, each experience is new and so a surprise, and the hope is that at our center, our lives are filled with gratitude and joy. It is of course up to us to make the choices, have the perspective, and the perceptions that can lead us through our imbedded scripts where we will encounter the conflict and pain that will deliver us to that joy filled center. When I watched Life of Pi, I was struck by something the father said, “How can you find your way if you don’t choose a path?” There is always some choice that we will have to make, that will determine what we will experience, what relationships we have, what paths we follow. It is our free will that we must exercise, that we can exercise, to enjoy the surprises that the bouncing ball or the thread invite us to explore. And it is also our free will that can keep us open and listening for that inner voice, our inner guide that does indeed seem to know what is best for us, that informs us of what is true, what path we should follow, and when we will learn the lessons we came to learn. My astrologer of twenty years always reminds me that free will can change everything. It can affect timing, circumstances, and relationships. But ultimately it guides us to see what is within us. It instructs us to transform the way we view our selves and everything around us. So let us bless this idea that things happen for a reason, that we will learn our lessons, and that there exists within us a higher intuitive self that offers guidance and insight. And as for free will changing everything, let it change us all, and the world, for good.
 
though we can't always see it at the time
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Jill Alman-Bernstein

I Must Be A Mermaid is the blending of my own personal soul searching with the inspirations and insights that I first found in the community of like-minded writers, healers, and teachers on Facebook. I dove in, created my page, and found the courage to swim through whatever was in my path, giving voice to my feelings through my personal observations and writing, as well as of those that spoke to me. With my I Must Be A Mermaid blog, I will fearlessly dive deeper into the realms of my heart and soul, swimming through their waters as a mermaid immersed in the sea of life.

By | 2016-05-25T18:12:51+00:00 May 25th, 2016|Dive Deeply|3 Comments

Each Moment is Filled with Opportunity

Seize the day… Seize each moment, as each offers you a unique opportunity to experience something new, something that might in fact change the way you think about something… opening a new perspective on your journey and on your desires and dreams.

 

each moment, each experience and event

Jill Alman-Bernstein

I Must Be A Mermaid is the blending of my own personal soul searching with the inspirations and insights that I first found in the community of like-minded writers, healers, and teachers on Facebook. I dove in, created my page, and found the courage to swim through whatever was in my path, giving voice to my feelings through my personal observations and writing, as well as of those that spoke to me. With my I Must Be A Mermaid blog, I will fearlessly dive deeper into the realms of my heart and soul, swimming through their waters as a mermaid immersed in the sea of life.

By | 2016-04-03T20:33:38+00:00 April 3rd, 2016|Quotes and Thoughts|0 Comments

Morning Intention – Focus

Intentions give us a focus, a purpose, a path by which to accomplish what it is that we deeply desire.  Set an intention today… be clear as to what goals you want to achieve and what you want to accomplish.

 

each day, focus on what it is that you deeply want.

Jill Alman-Bernstein

I Must Be A Mermaid is the blending of my own personal soul searching with the inspirations and insights that I first found in the community of like-minded writers, healers, and teachers on Facebook. I dove in, created my page, and found the courage to swim through whatever was in my path, giving voice to my feelings through my personal observations and writing, as well as of those that spoke to me. With my I Must Be A Mermaid blog, I will fearlessly dive deeper into the realms of my heart and soul, swimming through their waters as a mermaid immersed in the sea of life.

By | 2015-02-11T20:13:11+00:00 February 7th, 2015|Morning Intentions, Quotes and Thoughts|2 Comments

Who Am I Anyway?

Who am I?  We can all answer that question in regards to what roles we play: whether we are a parent, a spouse, a sibling, a child, what kind of work we do, what kind of service we are committed to. The background we come from, the education we have, everything seems to define who we are. I am a mother, daughter, sister, and spouse. I am inspired to connect to and express my creative voice through writing and to nurture and facilitate others to be inspired and find their own creative muse.   I support certain charities, giving my time and resources. These are the responsibilities and obligations, the commitments I have to my life.

“But the roles we play, things we do, cultures we come from, or labels we put on ourselves are not accurate answers to the question.”

Christine Hassler, in an article from The Daily Love, speaks about who we are in terms of our true essence. She goes on to say, “You are not what you do. You are not who you are with. You are not the roles you play in life.  You are not your family, religion or race. You are not your age. You are not your gender. You are not your resume of jobs, interests and experiences.”

So Who Am I? What is my true essence?

I was speaking with someone yesterday and she commented how much I give to everyone around me and asked if I have anything left for myself.

Yes, I am a giver.   I am loving, nurturing, and care deeply. I am generous, compassionate, thoughtful, and sensitive. I am inspired to be intuitive and creative. I strive to be authentic and present.

These aspects of me are apparent in all that I do. It is my core essence that informs others of who I really am, my innate nature radiating in every facet of my life.   The ‘roles’ are just the ‘forms’ that my essence takes.

1596991_601010053314368_1456604961_oHassler writes, “We get way to obsessed with form and want to know what we are supposed to do as our life’s purpose. Your purpose is not something you can do; it is only something you can be.  And when you know who you truly are and bring forward those qualities that are your true essence more and more in everything you do, the more you will attract the forms that are most aligned with who you really are.”

It is our essence, our soul, that will direct us to our soul’s purpose. It is pure and true and informs us of what resonates with our hearts.   It is our essence that is the key to our passion and joy, and to our being content with all that is our life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Jill Alman-Bernstein

I Must Be A Mermaid is the blending of my own personal soul searching with the inspirations and insights that I first found in the community of like-minded writers, healers, and teachers on Facebook. I dove in, created my page, and found the courage to swim through whatever was in my path, giving voice to my feelings through my personal observations and writing, as well as of those that spoke to me. With my I Must Be A Mermaid blog, I will fearlessly dive deeper into the realms of my heart and soul, swimming through their waters as a mermaid immersed in the sea of life.

By | 2014-04-28T21:22:08+00:00 April 28th, 2014|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|2 Comments

Things Happen for a Reason

“Though we can’t always see it at the time, if we look upon events with some perspective, we see things always happen for our best interests.  We are always being guided in a way better than we know ourselves.”   ~Swami Satchidananda

Do things happen for a reason, or is it all just random?   And so the question of whether or not there is a prescribed path for each of us to follow, a designated sequence of events, is pondered.  Is there a grand plan? (more…)

Jill Alman-Bernstein

I Must Be A Mermaid is the blending of my own personal soul searching with the inspirations and insights that I first found in the community of like-minded writers, healers, and teachers on Facebook. I dove in, created my page, and found the courage to swim through whatever was in my path, giving voice to my feelings through my personal observations and writing, as well as of those that spoke to me. With my I Must Be A Mermaid blog, I will fearlessly dive deeper into the realms of my heart and soul, swimming through their waters as a mermaid immersed in the sea of life.

By | 2014-02-02T20:23:43+00:00 January 18th, 2014|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|2 Comments