Do You Have The Power? Will Power That Is!

Each morning, each sunrise, is nature’s way of signaling you to wake up, heed the call to action, to move forward on your path, progress towards your personal goals.  Some days the goal is to simply open your eyes and get out of bed.  I have had many days like that.

On the first of November I woke up feeling like I needed to do a reset of my life.  I had been feeling overwhelmed and my answer to those feelings had been to on several occasions binge eat cocoa puffs or devour my latest favorite Chocolove dark chocolate with salted almond butter bar, or both.  Trust me, it is not a pretty sight to see myself standing in the kitchen, oblivious to the handfuls of cereal being mindlessly shoveled into my mouth.  My exercise routine had pretty much ground to a halt weeks before.  My spiritual practice was non existent.

It is so easy to stay in that mindset – to eat yourself into several or in my case many unwanted pounds… to feel sorry for yourself for any and a multitude of reasons…to ignore the mental notes to meditate or take a walk.  Life seems so difficult for so many of us lately and it is precisely at these times that we should not ignore that morning sunrise summons.

It takes a lot to heed the call to action – the one that screams at us to get out of bed, get to the gym, get to work at our job and on our selves. 

So I asked myself, what do I need to reset?  What would it take for me to actually do a reset?  What do I need to do?

The answer: first, taking stock of who we are, what we believe, what we say, how we act.   Awareness.  Mindfulness.  Of the emotional, physical, spiritual, and psychic self.

On the obvious side, I needed to reset my emotional balance – so that I would not continue to out of control power eat.  But why was I out of balance?  What was it that was pushing me to the state of mind that I was not paying attention to what was important for my self care? 

We all, I know, lead very full lives.  We have many people and things to tend to – children, partners, spouses, parents, and then of course our selves; houses, jobs, volunteer work, hobbies… We are often pulled in many different directions.

The most important lesson of this chapter of my life is to stop taking on everyone else’s emotional pain.  I tend to do that – for my kids expecially.  I am the incomparable caregiver in my house – which I will admit often feels like being more of a slave to life’s and everyone’s needs.  How to be there for myself is always a challenge.  There is a wonderful and very true saying that you are only as happy as your unhappiest child.  When one of our children is hurting, we are hurting too.  A friend equated being the mother of three to a game of whack a mole – some pesky problem is always rearing its head.  So no wonder I was off balance, trying to juggle everything that was going on was proving too much for me. 

Restarting my exercise routine was an important component of this reset as it would help relieve the stress that was the cause of the emotional eating.  It would also kick start my metabolism and pave the way for a few pounds to melt off.

But the question I have to ask is, “do I have the power?”  The will power that is, to actually reset my emotional balance, eating, physical exercise…. and not let the stress of life get to me.   

Willpower.  The power of our will.  Looking up the definition I found “the ability to control your own thoughts and behavior, especially in difficult situations,” “control of one’s impulses and actions; self-control,” “control exerted to do something or restrain impulses,” and my personal favorite, “energetic determination.”

I needed energetic determination now to not go for the cocoa puffs when I am suddenly feeling frustrated by something happening in my house.  Energetic determination to make a healthier choice when needing to eat something, anything.  Energetic determination to move my body every day towards a healthier lifestyle.  Energetic determination to cultivate and maintain a spiritual practice. 

The reset is a shift – towards clearer perception and awareness, knowing exactly what you are doing in every moment and why.  You are able to exercise your will, use your personal power.  The call to action is the call to mindfulness in everything you do.  The power of your will must be harnessed for the good of mind, body, and soul.

I believe I do have the willpower to reset my life.  And I accept the challenge to heed the call to mindful acton. 

By |2018-11-08T17:08:04+00:00November 8th, 2018|Dive Deeply|2 Comments

Submerge yourself in the depths of your soul…

I had always been intrigued by Anais Nin’s quote, “I must be a mermaid. I have no fear of depths and a great fear of shallow living.” The idea of diving deep into life, not wanting to live on the surface, and really understanding what was in my heart and soul, was a driving force in my creating this blog, and to how I would ultimately pursue my dreams and passions in life. So here I am, submerging myself in the depths of my soul… listening to the quiet stillness… the silent echoes… transforming with each moment.

By |2018-10-16T10:28:03+00:00March 13th, 2016|More Emotional Weather|3 Comments

Sometimes you just have to say, “It is what it is.”

“Take things as they come.” “Be present.” “Live the moment.”

All great drops of advice and all important to having peace in your heart. So why is it that we have such a difficult time doing them? Many of us analyze, over analyze, think, and over think why certain events and relationships happen in our lives. We are stuck on not only the fact that they happened, but on the why. After all, everything happens for a reason. But is it so important to know that reason Can’t we just accept that it happened and look for what it has shown us, taught us, and how it has helped us grow?

If there was ever a statement that strongly resonated with me it would be Caroline Myss’ words: “Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.” I spent years trying to find the reason why something happened, why I made the choice I did, why things had worked out as they had. It was so painful and I suffered greatly. Living in the past or holding on to a fantasy is such a waste of energy. And it causes great hardship. Trying to decipher all the meanings in our personal universe is exhausting and we may not find all the answers we seek, or want for that matter. The search could be enlightening, but most often we feel anguish, sadness, and heartbreak when we remain in that search for the reasons why.

We all make mistakes. We all experience some emotional trauma. We all suffer. But we have the power, the choice, to free ourselves from that pain. I have often joked with friends about how it is time to get off misery road, that it is within our power to change the trajectory of our lives. We must choose to be vigilant and redirect our thoughts away from the questions of why something happened, why a relationship soured, why a person is the way they are, why a job didn’t work out, why we had to lose a loved one… why our life is the way it is. The best thing we can do for ourselves is give up the need to know why things happen as they do and just accept that they did, that they are as they are now. Just accept and allow the lesson. I dislike the expression, “It is what it is,” but it is the truth, and I find myself thinking or saying those words a lot lately.

So turn off of misery road and turn on to the road of joy, of happiness, of contentment, and of peace. Turn off your wondering mind. Cease the inquiry. Give up the need to know the why and concentrate on what is – focus on the present moment, and then focus on each subsequent moment as you experience life.

“Take things as they come.” “Be present.” “Live the moment.”

Peace of mind and soul can be yours. It is your choice.

By |2018-10-25T12:54:05+00:00March 4th, 2016|More Emotional Weather|2 Comments

Guiding Signs and Synchronicity

Our intuition leads us in every facet of our lives if we let it. It guides us to see our world with clarity and perspective. It informs us of the steps to take or not to take on a given path at a given time and moment. If we allow ourselves to be open to its gifts, we flow in its harmony. We begin to see the synchronicities – the signs and the messages that the universe has for us.

And there are signs everywhere. I see them in the sky when the clouds form streaks and shapes that morph into some extraordinary form. I see them on the beach with heart and wishing stones, or other precious beach gems that call out my name or deliberately catch my eye.   I see them in the coincidences in the world around me.

If we are open and look with clarity, we will see the intended messages from the universe. We marvel at how the same quote comes across our news feed time and time again, the same image continually finds its way to us, the same situation or person keeps coming our way… we are surprised by the frequency and sometimes intensity of these seemingly chance occurrences.

Yet we want to see all these signs. We want to know and feel that there is something greater at work, that something has our best interest at heart, and instructs us as our own divine sense of guidance and intuition makes itself clear.

It is no wonder that as I was feeling burnt out and wondering what exactly is my true purpose, that on the cliff staring me in the face on my beach walk was a mermaid. There she was… lying in the clay of the cliff as if she were in the water. Her hair flowing down her back, her fish tail clearly outlined in the sand… She was surely meant to be there as some sign for me, wasn’t she?  And all of the sudden I had renewed energy for my creative work and my intuitive nature.

Synchronicity is nothing more than your openness to the messages of the universe and finally seeing how it all really does happen for you.

In an instant, it all becomes crystal clear. A dream that you had, that you can’t quite figure out what it means and what its message is to you, all at once resonates. A phone call or note at a specific time sheds light on something that has been troubling you. A walk in nature reveals something beautiful and meaningful, reinforcing your sense of self and purpose.

The signs, messages, synchronicities, coincidences, surprises, miracles, and wonders of life are everywhere. Receive them with an open mind, body, and heart.

Mermaid in the sand

When Things Come Up

We go through life almost on automatic. Our body manages to sustain itself – all our systems operate healthily we hope, and we awake and glide through our days to wind down and lay our heads to rest at night.

Our human experiences begin from the moment we are conceived. In the womb we have a consciousness.  Though we may not have any sense of that time, each moment is indelibly imprinted.  We are born and live our lives, each of us our own adventure, each of us our own individual story to tell.  We form our ideas and thoughts. We discover what we want, what we dream and desire. We strive for the things that we think are important, that will make us happy, successful, and loved.

But for most of us, there is a glitch, an imperfection, a bump in our road, an obstacle that throws us off course, or prevents us from achieving something that we aspire towards. There are things that don’t sit well with us, that cause us stress, or pain. And there are things that though we try to avoid them, they keep coming up. (more…)

By |2018-10-16T10:43:59+00:00February 18th, 2014|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|3 Comments

Breaking Your Emotional Codes

Each day is supposed to be a new day, filled with new opportunities, and new choices. But for so many of us, each day is a repeat of the one before.  We have the same feelings about things, the same responses, the familiar cycle is like a loop – the same song repeating itself over and over, and like in the movie Groundhog Day, we try desperately to remember what we want to do differently, and hope that we can shift things just enough to change the outcome of our day.

We all have patterns that we seem to repeat over and over again. We get stuck in the same cycles day after day and though we reach for thoughts and ways to alter our feelings and outcomes, most of the time we are unsuccessful at effecting change.  There are many tricks that one can use to help shift that pattern.  (more…)

By |2018-10-24T12:02:09+00:00February 8th, 2014|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|5 Comments

Seeing Your Life As It Is

We all see our world the way we want it to be.  We color our days with the words and images that reinforce our idea of what we think our life should be like.  But what we really need to do is see our world as it is.  This means really being in the present moment, really understanding what each moment offers.  This is what being present is about -opening your eyes – opening your heart – opening every cell in your body to whatever the experience you are living may be. (more…)

By |2018-10-16T10:36:45+00:00December 28th, 2013|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|3 Comments

The Waves of Life

Revelations are the keys to our change. They allow us to see our world with clarity through the veil of haze and fog – so thick and dense that we often feel like we are gasping for breath. And breathing is critical. Deep, resonant, soul filling breaths that nourish and assist us in moving through our blocks, enabling us to first profoundly feel those things that have been scaffolding us yet now need to be torn down, or out, or apart, so that we may shed tears and release those aspects that tie and bind us to the present, or past, that stop us from shifting to our next shape.

But we indeed shift. We transform ourselves from what we were to what we are to what we want to be, what we dream to be. We shift as the tides shift the sand. The waves of life sculpt our shorelines and reveal the very foundations that lay beneath our deep, dark, still waters.

We do not magically take our new shapes. It is only through great courage and determination that we can search deeply in our hearts for the forgiveness and love necessary to evolve and embody our truest forms.

By |2018-10-16T10:26:54+00:00August 18th, 2013|Emotional Weather on the "8's"|4 Comments